The term handjob is usually reserved for something you do to with a man's body. Just saying you've got a man or woman's body to pleasure doesn't tell you enough about how to pleasure it, so consider the following a rough guide to the smooth art of handjobs. If you have any psychological hang-ups about female genitals they will get in the way of a great handjob. Consider the Person Attached to the Vulva We all like different kinds of stimulation at different times, and most of us have general preferences for the intensity of stimulation. Most of us will have some history with handjobs, experiences both positive and negative. Women with painful histories maybe fearful or cautious when approached by even the most loving hands. If you're in a position to talk about it, getting some information about your partner's handjob history wouldn't hurt. If the idea of talking about sex is a major turn-off for both of you the next tip may be all you need to know. A bigger problem is to, as Monty Python would describe it, stampede to the clitoris as if simply doing something faster or harder is going to be better. Actually, that can be the worst thing you can do.
1. Start with a conversation about hand jobs.
3. Use lube—always—for a good hand job.
Needless to say, I love them. Of course we can. After all, using our hands to get off is something most of us guys have been doing day-in, day-out since our mid-teens. I can read body language, I can fall back on experience, and I can respond to guidance, but I will never be able to feel the effect my actions are having, so there will always be tiny missteps. Moments when the rhythm is great — but not quite perfect. Just not perfect. Still, lots of women love being fingered, for any one of a hundred reasons. The power dynamic. The prioritisation of their pleasure.
Handjob instruction video for women
Takeaway: From start to finish, learn how to give a girl a handjob that will have her coming Why not call it fingering? As anyone with a vulva knows, a good handjob is about more than repeatedly inserting your fingers into a vagina.
Out of all the go-to skills in your sex repertoire, giving a hand job is likely not one that you whip out often. Not because you're totally clueless about how to handle his penis, but because sometime after high school, the good ol' HJ lost its luster. The reasons are two-fold: One, he gets the opportunity to watch his sexy partner you take the reins on something he typically does himself. And two, when you do something that you don't engage in often, the act becomes infinitely hotter.
