Sex is everywhere — if we're not watching actual sex scenes on TV or in the movies, we're watching celebrities parade down red carpets practically naked. It's not just porn that sets unrealistic expectations for what's sexy anymore, and it can be hard to feel like you measure up when it comes time to get naked IRL. But if you want to keep sex fresh in a long-term relationship or you want to feel more confident in the bedroom, there are plenty of things you can do without going OTT. Just give these tricks a try. People should not have sex without talking about it — lovingly, salaciously, practically, fearlessly — and often. How else can we know how to thrill each other? Couples don't ask for what they want because they're afraid they won't get it. If you don't ask, however, you are sure not to get it. The spoken word can be foreplay , intimate and hot.
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Everyone wants that! Sit in a chair and have your partner put two fingers on either side of your clitoris, scissoring their fingers together while gently licking or sucking the tip of your clit. Not only does this allow for deeper penetration, but you can have them knead or spank your butt for improved orgasm.
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Some things in life are better on repeat: Friends , perfectly sunny beach days, your trusty white manicure. Your sexcapades, though? Definitely not one of them. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs new sex positions to stoke the flames from time to time—otherwise things get boring, fast. In short, your brain craves newness, and especially for women, your brain is very involved in your excitement and satisfaction. Note: While many of these directions reference male partners, these positions can be assumed by just about anyone. Do It: Near the edge of a bed or bench, rest on the hip and forearm of one side and press your thighs together.
There are countless books, instructional videos, and colorful diagrams devoted to answering the question, "How can I please my lover in bed? Chris Donaghue , sex and relationship therapist, podcast host , and author of Rebel Love. In the spirit of enjoying the ride, we asked experts to recommend the best sex tips for women. Knowing what brings you pleasure doesn't just make sex more satisfying for you ; it boosts your confidence during an encounter, making things more fun for everyone involved. Whether you've been together for years or just started seeing each other, it's likely you'll learn something new about your bedmate's desires by If you're sheepish about broaching the subject, preferring to go by moans alone, remember that it's a chance to learn more about each other and make sex better in the long run. She says,"Approach your partner with empathy, and express a desire to bring them the most pleasure possible. Then, share your desires as well. Tap your phone's potential as a seduction tool by sending sexy texts—a.
