Losing your virginity is supposed to be a special and intimate time. Oh, and let's not forget the dreadful pain. Or, so that's what they keep telling us. My experience with losing my virginity was nothing like people said it would be, and that's OK.
The Best Three Positions That Sexual Rookies Should Try
1. THE MISSIONARY
Sex should never be uncomfortable… except maybe in that hilariously awkward way. Even if position A worked for your previous partner, your new S. How their personal taste aligns with yours will determine comfortable or painful sex. This time, just incorporate our enhanced-for-comfort-and-satisfaction sex positions below. The only prep you need to do — and this is true before every kind of penetration with any partner — is communicate and lubricate! Let go of any old memories of those innocent times when somewhat rhythmic up and down was all you knew about sex. Instead, create a new experience of the classic missionary. Take your favorite pillow, and place it underneath your pelvis for increased support. Bend your knees, bring your pelvis upward, and spread your legs apart enough to allow for thrusting.
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Having sex for the first time with a new partner can be total fireworks — or awkward as hell. But having bad sex the first time doesn't mean the sex will always be bad. You have to leave some room for people to grow together. Sometimes that just means working out their nerves, sometimes it's getting to know each other, and sometimes it's a straight up conversation about the fact that the sex isn't working. Nikki Goldstein tells Bustle. In order to have a healthy sex life you need to have sometimes uncomfortable conversations about what might not be working in the bedroom or what you want more or less of. If it's not great in the beginning, there's really no need to panic.
Having sex for the very first time has understandably a lot of emotional buildup and expectation around it. Sorry, just being honest! And if they do come quicker than they wanted: 1. Use it as an excuse to do round 2 or 3 or 4 or
